Divorce in India. All you need to know about contested and mutual divorce.

Divorce in India

This article explains all you need to know about getting a divorce in India.

Marriage as opposed to relations of blood, is one which we enter into by our own choice and not by virtue of our birth. Conceptually Marriage is both a Sacrament & a Contract.  It is a contract because it is based on offer and acceptance and is akin to an agreement to live together. Sacrament because of it’s religious ties.

As it is connected with the freedom of choice, sometimes we do make choices that do not turn out the way we would want them to be.

Divorce allows a person to break free from an onerous marital relationship. But since marriage is not merely a contract but a very important societal institution. The law has an interest in protecting marriage, and not allowing it to be severed only by choice and on ordinary wear and tear.  Since society in countries like ours takes special interest in protecting it – In our country to get a divorce one needs to prove certain grounds for eg : cruelty/adultery/desertion etc.  Known as matrimonial offences. (Crimes relating to marriage)

A happy marriage is a harbour in the tempest of life an unhappy marriage a tempest in the harbour of life, more and more people are realising the reality of their relationships, and accepting divorce as the rational choice to a better life necessary premised on better relationships. It is no more a taboo and especially so in urban cities.

Divorce by Mutual Consent is the easiest way to get a divorce, in this both parties work out their terms on which they agree to part ways- file petition in the court, which is finalised in 6 months. However there may be cases where the decision to part may not be a mutual one, and it is only one party who considers the union to be troublesome and worth getting rid off. Such situations lead to Divorce being contested.

Contested Divorce

In this regard we follow the fault based system of divorce. Divorce is granted only on proof of fault or guilty conduct of one party and innocence of the other. The most common ground for divorce is cruelty (Simply such conduct as to make it impossible for parties to live together – this includes mental or/and physical torture). Another common ground is adultery (sexual intercourse outside wedlock) one instance of lapse of virtue can lead to divorce.

Divorces are also common on grounds of desertion (simply wilful abandonment of one spouse by the other without reasonable cause/excuse). Apart from this Conversion of religion/Unsoundness of mind/Renunciation of world are also grounds for divorce.

As per the law as it stands our legal system does not allow divorce to be granted on the ground of irretrievable breakdown of marriage or irreconcilable differences.(Known as no fault grounds). Call it impractical & absurd. To get a divorce one has to prove wrongdoing on the part of other spouse, and impeccable conduct of one’s own in order to win. Which is impossible sometimes. Legislature has taken note of this pragmatic reality and a bill on the same topic is pending in the Parliament, which would allow a person to seek divorce on ground of inherent incompatibility leading to breakdown of relationship.

PROCEDURE OF GETTING A CONTESTED DIVORCE

  • Ascertain the ground on which you want to seek divorce.
  • Collect evidences.
  • Consult a seasoned divorce lawyer and file a petition in the Family Court of your district.

HOW DOES YOUR CASE PROCEED ? AND HOW MUCH TIME DOES IT TAKE ONCE IT IS FILED IN THE COURT 

Petition is filed in the court with all the relevant evidences/documents. Person filing the petition is called ‘the petitioner’ and erring spouse responding is ‘the respondent’. (Remember to annex all documents on you rely with the petition itself – Videos/Audio Recordings/Photos are documents within the meaning of evidence act, and admissible in evidence, your’s spouse emails/chats/facebook/twitter updates are also admissible to prove depravity/infidelity or whatever !

After you file the petition in the court – erring spouse is summoned, if he/she turns up and enters appearance the matter is bi-parte, if the erring spouse prefers not to contest or come to the court, the matter is proceeded ex parte (in absence) and divorce granted if the matter is worthy of the same.

  • In case of bi-parte – the court normally would before seeking a reply from your spouse of the allegations levelled by you – would refer the parties to a mediation or conciliation, so that issues can be resolved amicably this way or the other. Whether leading to a reconciliation (living together) or an amicable divorce.
  • If the above fails, the erring spouse/respondent would file a Written Statement to your petition with the necessary documents (Normal time for filing a WS is 30 days (Max : 90 Days). Following which one can file a replication to further elaborate and explain.
  • Once that is done the court would frame issues – issues are questions that are to be decided by court at the time of final hearing. For eg : in a Divorce on the ground of adultery – the issues would be “Whether the respondent had sexual intercourse with X during the subsistence of marriage with the petitioner” ? The answer to this question would decide the fate of divorce case. There may be more than one issue in case of multiple grounds. The entire divorce proceedings are premised at answering this question/issue.
  • After issues are framed – the court would ask petitioner to lead evidence, his own or/and his witnesses. This also is decided into three stages. First petitioner would lead his witness and examine him. Thereby putting the foundation of his case. (Called examination in chief) Thereafter the opposite party would cross examine the petitioner’s witness. (Called cross examination) Cross examination includes exposing the falsity of a witness’s deposition by putting leading questions, and contradicting the witness. Witness may either withstand the onslaught of questions – thereby retaining the confidence and reliance of the court, or he may stand discredited.
  • The Party calling the witness is further given an opportunity to fill the holes the opposite party’s advocate has busted into it and make the court believe in it’s witness.

The same process is repeated for each witness on either side. Once petitioner’s evidence is over, respondent leads his or her evidence. Please note petitioner/respondent/family members are all competent witnesses.

Once evidences are over. The Court would finally listen to arguments of either side on the case, and then proceed to decide the case.

On how the evidences are appreciated, to illustrate in a case based on cruelty the court would normally see whether on the totality of evidences led, is the conduct of respondent such as to make living together a practical impossibility ? Does it pose a great risk to physical or mental well being of the petitioner.

The Court’s formal order in the end is known as the ‘decree’. After this either party may appeal in the High Court and then finally the Supreme Court.

Normally the process in the Family Court would take anywhere between 2-3 years if contested vigorously. My experience has shown that parties normally lose patience somewhere in between and agree to part ways amicably. Because litigation does not really pay for anybody but the lawyers ! and that is the reason I advise my clients to go in for this only when the mutual option is unquestionably foreclosed.

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  1. Arun Kumar S R (Marix)

    Good Work.. Thanks Bro

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  4. bhargavi

    hello sir
    iam bhargavi from andhra pradesh, requires your help. i was married in 2007 but because of husband’s behavior i was separated form him and filed a criminal case of 498A and a maintenance case. After this my husband applied for divorce and the magistrate dissolved our marriage and allowed divorce for us in nov -2012. i doesn’t accept this because he doesn’t pay me anything, at the time of marriage my parents gave me every thing required for our family life and after some period i.e.,6 months they send me out from my matrimonial home but all the things which my parents gave me i.e., gold, silver and other household articles which are some what costliest left with them and enjoying them. how the magistrate do this without giving me any compensation? now i require compensation from them, how can i get this from them?
    please tell me the procedure to follow ahead, i have go to the high court for this, is it require or not? i cant attend high court for every hearing. can i file any case against this in my home town only or not? please guide me.please respond to this and guide me.
    if you
    please mail me
    thanking you

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    1. Madhu

      Hello barghavi garu, iam madhu, iam also suffering with same problem, pls give Me ur email and mobile number to talk to you and share my problem. Y mines deyon_1985@yahoo.co.in pls send ur email with mobile number to share my problem

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  5. nil kumar pradhan

    Its good to read the above statements..but sir I have a different problem and in this confusion I have waisted 5years of my precious time.
    With the introduction of domestic violence it has become a very cruel justice for men
    Its not always the women suffers and I totally agree that the womens do suffer….but what about those mens who are unnecessary framed within these laws?
    These laws have handicapped me and waisted my precious life…

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  6. priti

    Hi plz let me.know.the x party devorce is.applicable.to.india?

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  7. srinivas

    Hello Sir
    I am Srinivas from andhra pradesh, requires your help. I got married in Apr 2012 she doesn’t pay me anything, at the time of marriage my parents gave me every thing required for our family life. but because of wife’s behavior, psycho mentality on Sep 2012 she went to her father. After one month she coplainted in police station that is forcing for prostitution and criminal case. my family IS respectable so consulted for shettlement 13L compensation. Applied for divorce. but all the things which my parents gave me i.e., gold, silver and other house hold articles which are some what costliest left with them and enjoying them.

    thanking you

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  8. Sadhana Rastogi

    Hello sir,
    Thanks for the above information. I am Sadhana from Pune, requires your help. I got married in Nov 2010 and my father give Cash, Bike and all the furniture’s and Electronic goods in my wedding.My wedding is fully arranged marriage.We get proper time to know each- other before wedding.My husband stay in London. After marriage I also went to London and stay with him approximate 10 months. Since nov 2011 I stay in India. My husband forced me to do MBA, so I am doing that as per his requirement. Now we did not meet last 1 year, two months because he still stay in London and not giving me NOC later to meet him. He want to take Divorce with me but I don’t want it from the bottom of my soul. I love him and their is no any issue from my side but he do not want to live with me at any cost. After asking the cause of the divorce, he said that their is the difference between our thinking and otherwise you don’t have any problem. I am trying my best to save our relation, I am ready to do all the adjustment with him. I am ready to change my self as per his requirement (already I did a lot) but he is not ready to live with me even a single day.
    Plz help me how can I save this relation? and If I don’t want to give him divorce Is it tough for him to take?

    Thanking You

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    1. rohit

      dont waste your time. its possible u r a nice human being and he is nice too but perhaps u two are not nice to each other. just performing domestic chores and cooking isnt love. u need to move on. he might be in love with someone and let him have his happiness. u will find yours too. dont worry about what will people say.

      although i just bumped into it now…i hope everything worked out between u and him and u both r happy.

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  9. Raina

    Sadhana….. Get marital counselling. Pune has some good counsellors. Don’t expect magic pills from an online forum! Although seriously, you are in love with a man who took dowry and has barely any respect for you? Or are you worried about “what people will say”?

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  10. Balaji Vara Prasad

    Very informative and educating article. Thanks to the auditor.

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    1. rohit

      auditor!!! editor….or why the editor… its the writer u need to congratulate

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  11. sarmistha bera

    WE HAVE ALREADY APPLIED FOR A MUTUAL DIVORCE. NOW THE COURT HAS GIVEN US 6 MONTHS’ TIME TO RETHINK SO I JUST WANT TO KNOW THE DETAILED PROCEDURE OF SECOND MOTION OF DIVORCE. WHAT WILL HAPPEN THAT DAY? WHEN WILL I GET THE FINAL COPY OF DIVORCE? & WHAT IF HE DOESN’T COME ON GIVEN DATE? PLEASE TELL ME. PLEASE REPLY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.

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    1. Joe

      Hello Sarmistha,

      Just bumped into this. Not sure if your hearing has passed, but here is what will happen.

      After 6 months, on the day of the hearing the court will record your willingness again, you’ll be asked to sign and confirm all the points you have mentioned in your first mutual divorce petition and, both parties are ok with it. Once this has been signed and recorded, the judge will pass the orders on a different date usually after a week or so, it depends on the schedule. After which you are free. If the other party does not show up or tries to evade the proceedings, you will have a upper hand, think the other party will be given another opportunity to present himself if not the case will be decided on your favour.

      Hope it helps,

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  12. mahi

    Hello sir,
    I am mahi from punjab ,requires yours help. I got marrige in may 2013 and take protection from high court but their is the difference between our thinking .we both are living separated from july 2013.now we want break this marrige..plz tell me the procedure .

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    1. R P Chugh

      You can go in for a divorce by mutual consent.

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  13. kumar.s

    im kumar.i filled divorce petition under sec 14(2) hmt act1955.becos she is having type 1 diabetes past 13 years.she is taking insulin 2 times per day. so important body parts are affected.mainly kidney and retina. They cheating our family & me. and fraudulent marriage on 1/9/2013.they won’t come to mutual divorce. so we filled divorce petition on 2/2/14.we have all her medical documents .when will court give divorce.we r so frustrated…we spend more money for useless this arranged marriage.we want justice shortly.what we will do…..

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  14. Shradha

    Hi Nadeem,

    This is Shradha Aher, from Pune.

    I am sending you query on behalf of my brother ” Vishwas Vadak”,
    married to hemalata in 2008 they had one boy with DOB – 7-9-10, now my
    brother want divorce but his wife not ready for the same.

    his wife was not willing to stay with his mother she is very arrogant
    after 6 months of marriage me start fighting with her husband and
    mother in law, when his boy 3 1/2 month old they come up with very bad
    clash and my brother get out from house with her because his mother
    should be safe, but after that they he is not happy with her, in may
    she gone to her mothers house with child for 1 month after that she
    started working and on 4th day she again go to her mothers house for 1
    month, and came with her 3 sisters brother and they always do like
    this because my brothers nature very calm, after 2 day she go to
    police station and complaint against my brother and his mother that my
    brother not filling material at home and many false things , that day
    police taken it in written. now my brother and she also sometimes
    agreed on divorce with one own house and money for his baby and for
    her but some times she said she is not going to sign any how she said
    do what ever you want.

    my brother fade up with all this things he want divorce urgently.

    Please help on the same that how much money it required can we go for
    mutual consent, then what he need to give to wife after divorce and
    how much money should be required and time for all this things.

    if you required more information for this case please let me know of
    should i call you please reply on the same.

    Regards,

    Shradha Aher

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  15. amoli parekh

    I filed for contested divorce on ground that my marriage has not been commensurate

    As my husband had no relation with me and he beat me too.

    he is not ready to give me divorce by mutual consent.

    he has not appeared even once since the case has started,hence court keeps
    on pushing date and it has been 1.5 years court is moving the case like this.

    what is the maximum time till which court waits for other party to appear?
    what if he never appears?

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    1. R P Chugh

      The court would proceed to grant an ex-parte divorce once satisfied that the respondent is not appearing intentionally. It would first publish the summons in the newspapers to ensure wide circulation. This is done with a view to guard against fraudulnet divorces.

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  16. apoorva

    What is section 9

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    1. R P Chugh

      Restitution of Conjugal Rights – If one of the spouses leaves the company of the other, the wronged spouse can move the court for directions to the party to come live together, once again

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  17. Kanchan

    Can a 3 year old one way email communication be used to prove adultery ? Parties have reconciled after discussing once the email was found.. Also does court asks how the email communication was obtained? Hacking into someone’s email account isn’t taken into consideration by court?

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    1. R P Chugh

      In India we do not have the fruits of the poisonous tree doctrine and even evidence that is illegally procured is admissible in evidence, depending on it’s probative worth and relevancy otherwise. A three year old communication can be used. The subsequent reconciliation​ may have the effect of condonation (forgiveness​) of the wrong and may kill the action. Need to know more before commenting conclusively.

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  18. kedri janardhan

    Dear sir,this is janardhan from agra.i got married in 2011.since the day one of my marriage,my wife stays one month in my house and six months in my in-laws house.it is a type of harrasement to me.finally i decided to take divorce from my wife.so you please tel me the procedure for divorce in my case

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    1. R P Chugh

      You can apply for divorce on the grounds of desertion/cruelty or both.

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  19. Lata

    Hi I married my husband in 2005 and as I am UK resident he decided to move to the UK and once he was here he waited for 3 years without any work only to apply for british citizenship and passport once he got that his attitude towards me totally changed he never contributed towards any bills or never paid for anything he was happy to spend all the money that I was earning taking holiday trips around the world and had a lavish lifestyle and in 2012 it came to me as a pleasant surprise and a shock to my husband when we found out that I was two months pregnant and I was very ill during my pregnancy so my mother came home to take care of me as he stopped talking to me and totally shut me out of his life I went to my parents house and was admitted into the hospital there throughout my pregnancy and in dec of the year i went back to my house against the advise of the doctor to travel because my husband said that he wants me to come home on the 23 of dec which I did but he refused to talk to me as he did not want the child because he thinks we won’t have enough money which was not true as I had a very well paid job however on the 6th of Jan when I was nearly 7 months pregnant he left the house as he had already per planned moved all the stuff including the marriage certificates and all my memories the photos videos the whole lot without my knowledge and he just gave me the keys and left without saying where he was moving to or why since than i constantly kept sending e Mails and texts to him begging him to come back there was no response even after the child was born he did not come home to see his child I went to India with my parents and whilst I was there he came to India and filed a divorce petition I contested it with all the evidence with in one year the petition was cancelled by the judge for default . Now my husband has gone back to India to reopen the case and I just found out about that today and it was filed on the 28th of August I have no notice if it as I do not live in India neither does he can you please let me know if I can apply for a counter via E Mail as it would be extremely difficult for me to travel to India since I just came back from India please let me know what I can do regarding this matter
    Thank you

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    1. R P Chugh

      The best strategy for you would be to hire a counsel in India to represent you, or go in for a legal aid counsel. You would be served before any orders are passed against you. However, if you have an inkling that divorce proceedings have been initiated you would be well advised to make certain enquiries with that court to rule out an ex parte divorce

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  20. Sanath

    I had got married 16 years back. My wife left me 14 years back for no apparent reason, immediately after she gave birth to our son. I did try to call her back initially, but when she did not respond positively, I gave up all hopes of her return. Now we have been staying separately and I haven’t met her or our son in the last 14 years, though all of us stay in Mumbai. There has been no contact at all. I am a businessman and she is a teacher and we are both busy with our professional lives. I never got into a relationship with any other woman and I would like to believe that my wife also has a clean character.

    Couple of months back, I was shocked to receive a divorce notice from my wife wherein she has alleged that I had mentally tortured her 14 years back and that the marriage is irretrievably broken down. I promptly responded to the notice expressing my intention to vigorously contest the case. I have no intention to divorce my wife. I want her to remain married to me for life whether she likes it or not. I want my son to know that his mother left me alone without any valid reason.

    16 years back, I had expressed love towards my wife through letters, greeting cards, photographs, video recordings, audio CDs and gifts and fortunately, I have managed to preserve all of them. I am sure that after going through these evidences, anyone would accept that I loved my wife and was unlikely to mentally torture her. I have no allegations against my wife and I still love her. I have no objection if my wife and son want to come back and stay with me. I do not harbour any ill feelings towards my wife. Hence our marriage cannot be termed as irretrievably broken down. It is just that my wife needs to cooperate to make the marriage retrievable.

    My lawyer advised me to file a vakalatnama for Restitution of Conjugal Rights against my wife as she deserted me without any valid reason. But I don’t want to level any allegations against my wife. I just want her to stay married to me on papers at any cost till my last breath. I want the court to quash the divorce proceedings against me. I hate the “Divorcee” tag and I don’t want the court to forcibly award me the title against my wishes.

    I am aware that contested divorce is like a fierce battle lasting for 20 years or more. But I am mentally prepared to fight for my rights as a husband. I have the required patience and I will not give up mid-way no matter what.

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    1. R P Chugh

      You need not level any allegations in a petition for restitution of conjugal rights. Marriage implies cohabitation, if one of the parties withdraws from the company of the other, the other can file this petition. As regards your wife’s divorce petition, irretrievable breakdown of marriage is not a ground for divorce as yet in India and can be successfully resisted on this ground alone. You can safely choose to argue on this plea and not exchange allegations.

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      1. Pragnya

        Can you please confirm if the law amendment for no-fault divorce is still not approved in
        India? I came across a news http://www.jurist.org/paperchase/2013/08/india-parliament-approves-no-fault-divorce-amendment-to-marriage-law–dnp.php which says India parliament approves no-fault divorce amendment to marriage law. The summary is as below –
        The Rajya Sabha, the upper house of the Indian parliament, approved an amendment to the Marriage Law, 2010 [the file ‘Marriage Laws Bill 2010.pdf’] Monday that would grant both men and woman the ability to file for divorce on the grounds of “irretrievable breakdown” of marriage. Both parties must live apart for three years before being able to file a petition for divorce on the grounds of “irretrievable breakdown.”

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  21. karim

    hi
    I would like to know if anyone can help me.
    I got married in india and came uk.we all three have british passport
    I have 8 years old son and my wife is not ready to see my son and don’t know what to do?
    I heard from uk solicitor that I can divorce in india as I got married in india.
    solicitor was saying I can divorce in india as well as uk.i can get son custody as muslim law as my son is 8 years old.
    what is the best way to get divorce in india?
    do indian divorce valid in uk and india ?
    do I need to be their in india or we all of three need to be in india to get divorce

    please help me#

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    1. R P Chugh

      If you were married as per Muslim law (Shariat) in that case you can pronounce triple talaq to your wife. The same would hold good even in UK. UK divorce would have to be in conformity with the Shariat law, in order to be effective in India. As regards the question of child custody, the same is tricky and dependant on many factors. The welfare of the child is of paramount consideration in such cases and the court while granting custody would consider various factors like : monetary/emotional/physical/moral wellbeing on the children.

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    2. R P Chugh

      If you were married as per M​uslim law (Shariat) in that case you can pronounce triple talaq to your wife. The same would hold good even in UK. UK divorce would have to be in conformity with the Shariat law, in order to be effective in India. As regards the question of child custody, the same is tricky and dependant on many factors. The welfare of the child is of paramount consideration in such cases and the court while granting custody would consider various factors like : monetary/emotional/physical/moral wellbeing on the children.

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  22. Anon

    I got married in 2012, but later the girl behaved badly with parents and me. This continued until I filed for divorce in 2013 based on cruelty (13). The other party filed for maintainance (125). Court proceeded very slowly, often dates were shifted. And now maintainance is being decided finally this month. They are asking 25 lakhs to settle out of court, which I cannot pay.
    Their lawyer successfully evaded my evidence 5 times, but I’m told it will go in my favor.
    What stage of divorce process am I in? If the opposite party lawyer did not take my evidence, can he use it later to his advantage?
    would my own lawyer want more money from me, so he’s not interested in finishing up the case? In this case should I give my own lawyer some more money?

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  23. vijp

    My wife filed 498a and dvc 3 months back. I filed divorce 1 month back. after filing divorce I came to know that contested divorce will take many years.
    So Now, I want withdraw divorce petition and want file when she comes for mcd.

    What reason should be mentioned to withdraw the divorce petition.

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  24. Priyadarshini

    Hello sir/madam!
    I am Venus Priyadarshini, I got arranged marriage in July, 2008. I did MCA and was working as software engineer at that time. They said lot of lies about his job and properties. My husband and his family is rude and arrogant from Day 2 after marriage, first my mother in law came in to our bed room the next day after first night and said that I didn’t bleed much, then my husband started to harass me like any thing, daily he use to fight with me and beats me so badly. he pulled out a bunch of my hair at once and many such things he did to me and even our son he does not love. He will not take us to hospital in case of illness. I took lot of help from my parents. He does not work, he will be home otherwise goes to his relatives houses and never comes home for 1 moth like that. He beats me and made me do all house hold chores alone. For the past 8 years I m suffering like this, in front of me only he will sight other girls and insults, irritates me and my son. Just for my son’s future I am taking all the pain. He never tells me anything, some times he will give little money sometimes does not. He has house and little property, and totally dependent on his family for everything. Now, with the help of my father, my gold and his family’s help he buying land and settling in life, now his character really became worse, daily tortures me asking for divorce that too I should only apply, he says because they will give divorce easily and he does not have to pay anything. He don’t allow me to go for work and forced me to be house wife, he bested me like anything for many years muscle cramps and swellings in hands, legs, neck, mental torture. Now, I am forgetful, having pains I am not able to walk properly also. Now, he is asking me to work any small work. don’t know what to do. Lastly, I am fed up with him and his lies. what to do? My mother, Is not supportive from my childhood, she only married me to this man through her friends, because they said no dowry. She forces me to adjust with him and asks me to die if I can’t. But, can not afford to apply for divorce and courts. What to do? Now my age is 35, Jobless.

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  25. Priyadarshini

    Hello sir/madam!
    I am Venus Priyadarshini, I got arranged marriage in July, 2008. I did MCA and was working as software engineer at that time. They said lot of lies about his job and properties. My husband and his family is rude and arrogant from Day 2 after marriage, first my mother in law came in to our bed room the next day after first night and said that I didn’t bleed much, then my husband started to harass me like any thing, daily he use to fight with me and beats me so badly. he pulled out a bunch of my hair at once and many such things he did to me and even our son he does not love. He will not take us to hospital in case of illness. I took lot of help from my parents. He does not work, he will be home otherwise goes to his relatives houses and never comes home for 1 moth like that. He beats me and made me do all house hold chores alone. For the past 8 years I m suffering like this, in front of me only he will sight other girls and insults, irritates me and my son. Just for my son’s future I am taking all the pain. He never tells me anything, some times he will give little money sometimes does not. He has house and little property, and totally dependent on his family for everything. Now, with the help of my father, my gold and his family’s help he buying land and settling in life, now his character really became worse, daily tortures me asking for divorce that too I should only apply, he says because they will give divorce easily and he does not have to pay anything. He didn’t allow me to go for work and forced me to be house wife, he beated me like anything for many years muscle cramps and swellings in hands, legs, neck, mental torture. Now, I am forgetful, having pains I am not able to walk properly also. Now, he is asking me to work any small work. don’t know what to do. Lastly, I am fed up with him and his lies. what to do? My mother, Is not supportive from my childhood, she only married me to this man through her friends, because they said no dowry. She forces me to adjust with him and asks me to die if I can’t. But, says can not afford to apply for divorce and courts. What to do? Now my age is 35, Jobless.

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  26. Pragnya

    Hello Sir/Mam,

    There has been a marriage under special marriage act 1954 few years ago since both belong to different cast. Both are Hindus. Now (a) the boy is not ready to sign mutual divorce at any cost and (b) the boy has not committed any crime as listed by divorce law to be ground of divorce and (c) the two parties are too different in mindset & compatibility issues are so deep that it can not be mended and also (d) the girl is not willing to file a false allegation against the boy just for getting the divorce done.

    So it means the only option is to go for a no-fault divorce introduced in india (http://www.jurist.org/paperchase/2013/08/india-parliament-approves-no-fault-divorce-amendment-to-marriage-law–dnp.php).
    Need to be sure that really now india has such a law to part ways for moving ahead in life without accusing anyone falsely.
    But what if it is not still approved in india and the news is false, then? Does it mean there is no way to get rid of this legal bond?

    Please do not suggest for any marriage counselling since the things have been so hafazard that wastage of any single moment further is not acceptable. Judged the boy very properly and has been able to recognize to late. The boy & his family have been given countless opportunities and has been forgiven many times irrespective of their faults.. But these things can not be disclosed in court as mental torture ground… not interested to accuse anyone despite the destruction of peace of mind for last 1 year due to them, just need to get out of this legal bond ASAP. There is no intention of second a marriage, just do not want be tied in this so called court marriage which is a legal bond.

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